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  • Our Trek – Mount Davis High Point Trail

    Our Trek – Mount Davis High Point Trail


    Best For

    State high-point seekers, easy summit hikers, individuals interested in climbing observation towers, rainy day adventures, Appalachian forest enthusiasts, families that hike, boulder lovers, and quick payoff trails.

    Trail Notes:

    • Date: May 6th, 2026
    • Location: Mount Davis High Point Trail in West Salisbury, Pennsylvania
    • Distance: 1.8 miles
    • Trail Type: Out-and-back
    • Time: 32 minutes
    • Difficulty: Easy
    • Elevation: 3,213 ft
    • Elevation Gain: ~118–147 ft
    • Weather: Rainy, foggy, and overcast
    • Fees: Free
    • Pass Required: None
    • Dog Friendly: Yes, leashed
    • Trail Markers: Yellow blazes
    • Features: Pennsylvania high point observation tower, boulder fields, Forbes State Forest, and a picnic area
    Turkey tail mushrooms grown along high point trail on Mount Davis in Pennsylvania.

    Pennsylvania’s Highest Peak:

    Some hikes make you work for every inch of elevation they allow you to gain.

    Others quietly hand you the highest point in the entire state in a much gentler exchange.

    After leaving High Rock on Savage Mountain in Maryland, Taelor and I drove less than twenty minutes north and crossed into Pennsylvania for our second hike of the day.

    A small almost circular hole in moss growing on the root system of the trees along the trail.

    Somehow within a short drive we had gone from standing on one mountain overlook in Maryland to chasing the highest geographic point in the neighboring state of Pennsylvania.

    The weather still had not improved.

    The rain followed us.

    Bringing with it the fog that higher-elevation rain usually pairs with.

    The cold ears stayed with us too.

    Though our moods definitely did not match the weather.

    This was Taelor’s third hike ever and already our second trail of the day. Our excitement levels seemed to gain elevation with us even after spending the morning climbing mountains in the rain.

    Bright green ferns and leaves grow among dead fall brown leaves on the side of the high point trail on Mount Davis in Pennsylvania.

    Geography of Pennsylvania’s High Point:

    Mount Davis rises to 3,213 feet and holds the title of Pennsylvania’s highest natural point. This summit isn’t a 14er like the dramatic mountain summits found in the western United States.

    Though Mount Davis does sit along a long elevated ridge within the Allegheny Mountains.

    These mountains themselves are part of the larger Appalachian system. Mount Davis’s summit stretches along a roughly thirty-mile ridgeline that extends south toward Maryland.  

    Centered is a pink trillium flower with green leaves growing among the other forest foliage. Back ground is slightly blurry dense forest with grey skies.

    One thing that surprised me was how different this landscape felt from the locations I’ve hiked closer to what I consider home.

    Ohio and even Northern West Virginia hikes often feel full of life in much different ways. The woods typically feel less full and containing other types of flora or stones.

    The overlooks back home generally sit at lower elevations and feel more manicured than this trek.

    Rocks make up the trail at high point on Mount Davis In Pennsylvania where a stream forms from the falling rain. Trail is lined with green spring growth bare trees and budding leaves, and the background consists of grey skies.

    Here the mountain forests seemed denser with growth, rockier, and even more layered with things to see. The summit itself remained heavily forested, which is exactly what the fifty-foot observation tower was built to combat in the first place.

    Without climbing it, the trees would steal much of the expansive view.

    Off of the side of the trail view shows a group of pink trilliums growing among brown leaves and budding green growth on the forest floor.

    Ancient Mountains + Mountain Stones

    The Appalachian Mountains are ancient.

    Just on the off chance that you don’t know this already… these mountains are also geographically similar to the mountains in Scotland.

    These ridges began forming hundreds of millions of years ago when continents collided and pushed enormous layers of rock upward. Over time erosion wore those mountains down into the softer, rounded ridges we have seen here today.  

    Green fresh Moss on trail side being raised by a dead twig

    Mount Davis also contains unusual geological features created during freezing and thawing cycles over thousands of years. Frost-heaving pushed stones into circular patterns throughout portions of the mountain landscape found here.  

    This is what makes the entire hike feel rocky.

    Boulders also lined large sections of the trail, leaving many looking as if they had simply crashed into one another or been left there by a giant who played with them in the past.

    Some leaned together in ways that looked oddly shaped… forming almost home-like structures.

    One of the oddly house-shaped rock stack formations seen along the trail that easily could house a fairy.

    Tiny stone houses or even apartments.

    They came in all sizes: a Hobbit home, a toad’s abode, or even a fairy house.

    Naturally me being me, I pointed each of them out and said:

    “I’d live there if I were smaller.”

    Small pale pink flower petals with yellow centers growing among on the forest floor among spring foliage and fall leaves.

    This honestly, just felt like the most obvious extension of my usual hiking sayings when I had been hiking by larger caves. If you have gone with me frequently you know every time I have found caves or cave-like structures in Ohio my first instinct is basically to say:

    “Leave me here.” Or

    “I live here now.”


    The Hike Up:

    The Mount Davis High Point Trail itself was easy to follow and fairly flat with what felt like minimal elevation gain. This trail was not a brutal assault on our lungs, thankfully.

    To be honest, a good portion of the trail felt less like a difficult climb and more like a relaxed walk through a mountain forest.

    Moss growing up the base of a tree trunk with spring growth popping through the fall leaves on the forest floor.

    Which honestly worked out because Taelor and I spent most of the hike doing what we were actually there for:

    Yip yapping, as well as being amazed by the different flora, moss, and trees that we were seeing.

    We were just two friends catching up at the same time that we were experiencing a new side of nature. Both of these facts added to the excitement and vibe of the trip.

    The base of tree trunks that line the trail shown in the distance along with the grey colored sky. In the foreground is green spring growth and brown leaves that line the forest floor.

    We made pretty good time moving through the moss-covered forest. Especially when you consider we had the giant boulders, flowers, cool trees, and bright green plant life that lined the trail stealing bits of our time for photography.

    The rain somehow made everything look more alive; this storm wasn’t the dreaded downpour type of rain.

    The moss here especially stood out. The foliage here, the ferns, leaves, and grass, appeared brighter green.

    A slightly bearded man in a rainbow tie-dye hoodie with the hood up tan back pack straps showing puts up the peace sign while standing next to a woman in a dark blue hoodie and blue beanie with purple back pack straps showing in the light rain with a dense forest and overcast background.

    Some even seemed softer to the touch.

    One could describe the scenery as out of this world.

    At one point I kept teasing Taelor:

    “If you need a break, just let me know.”

    Meanwhile my own legs definitely remembered that we had literally just come from another mountain hike. Internally, I was praying she’d just ask for a damn break, so I didn’t have to.

    A few yellow flowers grow together in a bunch on the trail at the summit of Mount Davis on high point trail. The flowers green stems grow out of the red rocks on trail.

    Before the Trails – People of the Mountains:

    Long before these Pennsylvania roads and trail systems existed, Indigenous peoples traveled through the Allegheny region for hunting, gathering, movement, and seasonal use. Various nations, including groups connected to Shawnee and Seneca nations, moved through these mountain corridors over generations.

    The ridges here weren’t just unused vast wilderness.

    Pine trees, budding spring trees, and bare trees like the trail making up the forest around high point trail on Mount Davis in Pennsylvania.

    People knew these landscapes long before the hiking signs, trail markers, and overlooks were placed or used to point them in the correct direction.

    While standing on this mountain within this vast forest I made sure as I always do, to take time and think about the land and the people who traveled here before.

    After all, these mountains and ridges existed long before us and they’ll continue existing long after us too.

    Rust colored metal sign with with accents and orange font seen at the summit of Mount Davis on high point trail.

    Summit Views + Observation Tower:

    At the end of the trail, the turnaround point, is where the Mount Davis Observation Tower sits. This tower is built in a way that resembles the older fire towers though it is not nearly as wobbly as they are.

    A view from the top of the observation tower showing fog and the tops of the trees making up the dense forest as well as the left top corner of the sign on top of the observation tower.

    In the same flat area of the summit sit multiple signs, benches, an access road, intersecting trails, and information markers.

    You all should already know that Taelor abandoned me immediately, barely making it up the tower. Of course, we were still on the first rung of stairs.

    As we know this is what everyone does.

    So I climbed the rest alone per usual. I’ll do the tower climbs alone or with a friend, I don’t care. I’m seeing the view.

    The weather had become extremely foggy by the time I reached the observation deck. On the way there, visibility dropped during parts of the drive, enough that seeing ahead became difficult.

     Close up of rust colored metal sign showing the elevation of the summit in Pennsylvania at Mount Davis on high point trail.

    The view from the tower?

    Fog and tree-tops everywhere.

    And I mean everywhere.

    I could actually see it drifting through the tops of the trees around me.

    I feel like normally people climb towers for endless clear sky views.

    This time the weather gave us something different.

    I loved it.

    Overcast grey skies behind a rust colored trail sign showing foliage knowledge. A far off view of the observation tower standing in the background among the trees making up the dense forest and summit.

    Things to Know:

    Parking is available at the designated Mount Davis High Point Trailhead and picnic area.

    If you are a hiker wanting more mileage, the larger Mount Davis High Point Loop offers a longer route through Forbes State Forest.

    Dense fog blurs video of another point of view looking off of the observation tower which shows the tops of trees and the dense forest that makes up Mount Davis.

    Where you will unlock deeper sections of rocky mountain terrain.

    You are permitted to bring dogs though, they must remain on leash.

    Always carry out what you carry in.

    Try to respect the mountain.


    Our Trek:

    This trek became one of my favorite hikes almost immediately, though I feel like I say this frequently.

    It wasn’t extremely difficult. Nor was it a stop that offered endless mountain views.

    Yet, it somehow turned the rainy second hike of our day into a one-of-a-kind experience that just worked.

    A woman shown in black boots, black pants, blue hooded sweater, and blue beanie hanging off a trail sign on the access road on the summit of Mount Davis. Surrounded by dense forest trees and an overcast sky.

    The moss, fog, tiny stone houses, our yip yapping and the mountain.

    This trail made for one of my favorite first hiking experiences in Pennsylvania.

    Given the chance I would absolutely love to hike it again.


    TLDR:

    Mount Davis High Point Trail was a short and easy hike leading to Pennsylvania’s highest natural point.

    After leaving High Rock in Maryland, Taelor and I headed here for our second hike of the day.

    Here we found fog, moss-covered forests, giant boulders, observation tower views, and one of my favorite rainy hikes so far.  

    Small bright green young evergreen tree up close view as it grows next to the trail among the dense forest and foliage on the trail side ground.

  • High Rock Fire Tower – Big Savage Mountain

    High Rock Fire Tower – Big Savage Mountain


    Best For:

    Mountain overlook lovers, seekers of Appalachian scenery, individuals interested in fire tower history, those who love rainy day hikes, and people who enjoy nature photography.

    Grey skies, trees, spring growth, dead leaves, and pink blossoms line the trail.

    Trail Notes:

    • Date: May 6th, 2026
    • Distance: 2.7 Miles
    • Trail Type: Out-and-back
    • Elevation: ~2,996 ft
    • Difficulty: Easy–Moderate
    • Time: 46 minutes car-to-car
    • Start Time: 6:30 a.m.
    • Weather: 50° with fog and right drizzle to moderate rain
    • Parking Fee: None
    • Pass Required: No
    • Dog Friendly: Yes, leashed
    • Features: Fire tower, overlook, ranger station ruins, boulder fields, and Mountain View’s
    Pink flowers grow with green leaves among the downed trees on Savage Mountain in Maryland.

    My First Maryland Trek:

    Come join Taelor and I on May 6th, 2026, for our first Maryland hike. Some hikes spend miles building anticipation before finally rewarding you with a view.

    Others make you earn it immediately.

    High Rock on Big Savage Mountain somehow managed to do both.

    You will see why this hike immediately set a high standard for Maryland in my book. We started around 6:30 that morning beneath gray skies and rain with temperatures hovering around 50 degrees. Fog drifted through the mountains while everything carried that damp smell of wet stone, moist moss, and spring woodlands.

    Grey clouds and tree tops on the way up high rock trail in Maryland.

    Before stepping onto the trail, we got lost for a brief moment, of course with no service, but we quickly found the missed parking area in front of the trailhead.

    The drive through western Maryland can get slightly confusing at times and the High Rock Fire Road is an easy to pass up stop. We overshot it and ended up using navigate AllTrails to locate the trail and backtrack up the road.

    I just knew we were bound to get lost at least once.

    Looking back, it almost felt fitting.

    This summit doesn’t announce itself.

    It just exists.

    Maybe that is part of what makes it even more special.

    A more close up view of the pink blossoms in Maryland surrounded by green spring growth on the side of a trail previously used as a fire road.

    Geography of Big Savage Mountain:

    Big Savage Mountain rises through Maryland’s Appalachian Ridge-and-Valley region, part of the larger Appalachian Mountains system. Millions of years ago, immense tectonic pressure folded and uplifted layers of rock into the ridges and valleys that now define western Maryland.

    Unlike central Ohio landscapes, these mountains create steep terrain, rocky ledges, and dramatic elevation changes. Big Savage Mountain itself stretches into Pennsylvania and forms part of the rugged backbone of western Maryland.

    That geography is exactly what makes High Rock unusual.

    Pink flowers green leaves and spring foliage with grey skies and tree trunks of various size behind them line high rock trail in Westernpoint, Maryland.

    Typically, Western Maryland is not especially known for endless overlooks. Dense forests often block where sweeping summit views would normally be. High Rock breaks that pattern.

    It has exposed rocky ledges that create one of the more expansive mountain overlooks in the state.

    From the summit you can spot Mt. Davis to the north and Backbone Mountain to the southwest. Another section overlooks the town of Westernport below.

    High Rock itself reaches Maryland’s fourth-highest summit area.

    While the nearby Backbone Mountain reaches approximately 3,360 feet and remains Maryland’s highest point.

    Mushrooms growing out of a dead large tree trunk. Photo taken from an angle that looks up at tree tops still bare and grey skies.

    The Hike Up:

    Not long after starting our trek, Taelor informed me that she had not gone hiking since the last time I took her hiking in 2021.

    Which was also apparently her first hike ever, what a great time to inform me.

    Not only did I introduce her to hiking, I then let four years pass before bringing her back out. I also made her second hike a summit hike. Whoops.

    We spent much of the hike catching up on two years of life updates while also talking excitedly about the other trails we planned on hitting later in the day.

    The trail follows a wide and easy-to-follow fire road climbing steadily uphill.

    And steadily is putting it kindly.

    Up.

    Up.

    Up.

    We went.

    Still, the elevation gain was nowhere near as murderous on our lungs as expected.

    Some hikers may consider the constant incline moderately difficult because it feels almost like walking straight up a mountain road, but personally I found it manageable.

    Along the route several side trails branched into the woods. Intermixed with giant boulders lining portions of the fire road.

    The plant life immediately stood out too.

    We spotted pink flowers including mountain laurel and mosses both of which variants that I do not usually see during my central Ohio hikes.

    It is the small differences like these that always remind me how quickly landscapes change once mountains enter the equation.

    Medium sized boulders with fall leaves still on the ground surrounding. Trees and grey skies make up the background.

    Before the Trails:

    Long before the overlooks ere used for sight seeing, roads, or hiking trails existed, Indigenous peoples moved through western Maryland.

    Groups including the Shawnee and Susquehannock, alongside earlier Woodland-era peoples, used mountain corridors throughout the region for travel, hunting, and seasonal movement.

    Small moss covered boulders cover the forest floor with brown fall leaves. Skinny tree trunks make up the seeable background with spring green leaves growing and grey skies.

    These mountains acted as pathways long before modern roads cut through them.

    Standing on ridges like these can make it easy to think of the wilderness as untouched.

    But people walked these mountains long before hiking was done for leasure.

    These mountains hold stories much older than their trail markers.

    Green moss with dark colored base grows on small log on forest floor. Surrounding the moss are dead leaves and green forest foliage.

    Summit Views & Fire Tower History:

    Eventually we reached the turnaround point.

    The summit area consists of rocky ledges, massive boulders, and the High Rock fire tower site itself.

    Today the tower sits fenced off and surrounded by barbed wire due to structural concerns and deterioration.

    Nearby stands a stone chimney. This is one of the few remaining pieces from an old ranger station built during the 1930s.

    Even though climbing the tower itself is no longer possible, the overlook still delivers.

    A look up from the bottom of the fire tower towards the top and the grey overcast skies.

    And it delivers in troves.

    This ledge contained some of the best views I have experienced so far.

    The weather never gave us a break.

    Fog.

    Drizzle.

    Rain.

    The entire hike.

    But somehow that made everything better.

    Clouds drifted over distant mountains while fog softened the ridges edges into fading into cloudy layers.

    Putting our cold ears aside, the weather became part of the memory.

    Not something to simply tolerate or even be dealt with.

    It was aomething that completed the experience.

    Individual in red shoes, black pants, and blue hoodie points at the ground near the overlook. Grey skies, trees, boulders and forest foliage make up the rest of the photo.

    Remember:

    Leashed dogs are welcome here, although I left mine home considering the amount of driving and additional trails we planned to tackle throughout the day.

    Green ferns and dead leaves shown on the forest floor in front of grey skies and tree trunks.

    Also remember that this area falls within wildlife conservation lands.

    So as usual Carry in what you carry out.

    Try to leave places cleaner than you found them.

    Respect the mountain.

    Old fire road that is now used as the trail lined with trees and covered in grass.

    The Vibe:

    High Rock delivered one of the best overlooks I have experienced so far and immediately became my favorite hike in Maryland, even if it’s still my only one.

    Not because it was the tallest mountain.

    Not because it was the hardest climb.

    Because how everything worked together here.

    The weather.

    Small and medium boulders that line the trail among the trees and forest floor foliage. Grey skies in the background.

    The conversations.

    The hidden trailhead.

    The fog.

    The mountain.

    Taelor and I spent much of the hike with cold ears, catching up on the past two years of life while already talking excitedly about the adventures still ahead of us.

    For a mountain named Savage, it ended up feeling surprisingly welcoming.

    Our first Maryland hike, could not have provided another place for a better introduction.

    Sign, barbed wire fence, and base of the fire tower shown in the image with grey skies in the background.

    TLDR:

    A cold, rainy climb up Big Savage Mountain led to one of the best overlooks I have experienced so far.

    High Rock delivered mountain scenery, rocky ledges, history, giant boulders, and a memorable first Maryland hiking experience where even the fog and rain became part of the adventure.

    Yellow centered flowers with white petals grow among green leaves.

  • A Daily Gratitude Journal Entry – Storia

    A Daily Gratitude Journal Entry – Storia


    Best For:

    Individuals who like to read emotional journal entries, people struggling through finding their identity, and daily journal entry enthusiasts.

    The Vault:

    • Emotional themes: identity, transition, healing, self-acceptance, gratitude, trauma recovery, and personal growth.
    • Reflections on: outgrowing fear, people-pleasing, internalized shame, and harmful relationship patterns.
    • Discussion of: gender identity and the experience of choosing authenticity over invisibility.
    • Exploration of: self-worth, healing from emotional abuse, and redefining what safety and love should look like.
    • Best read when: you have space for heavier reflection and honest conversations with yourself.

    How We Got Here:

    I try and honestly sometimes fail at keeping a daily journal. I love the Storia app though. With this iOS only app you can grow plants with daily streaks, create interconnected journals entries, as well as share community journal entries , and create multiple themed journals. Sometimes a journal prompt exists and you know that it needs to be shared. This was one of them.

    Storia Daily Journal Entry Prompt: What parts of you are you grateful you out grew?

    The Journal Entry:

    I’m glad I outgrew a lot of different things. One of the parts I am most glad to have cut ties with is the part of me that hid my want to transition.

    For years, that version of me treated my own truth like a secret to protect other people from.

    I swallowed words mid-sentence.

    Pre transition photo of Axton in mirror holding a cell phone and wearing a blue t-shirt.

    I laughed along when assumptions were made about me.

    I let the world see a shape instead of a person.

    I’m glad he finally got tired of living in her shadow.

    I’m glad he realized that hiding isn’t protection and it’s actually a slower kind of disappearing a much more terminal pain.

    Outgrowing her meant choosing to be seen, even when my hands were shaking.

    Along with that I am also glad I outgrew the part of me that was concerned with how people would or do view me and my transition.

    That part of me tried to build a prison out of other people’s opinions.

    I ritualized checking every mirror for disapproval.

    I edited myself before anyone even asked a question.

    Letting her go didn’t happen all at once.

    It happened in small rebellions: wearing what I wanted, speaking without apologizing first, staying quiet when I used to over-explain.

    I don’t need or wish to be viewed comfortably anymore. I need to be viewed truly.

    And I’m glad.

    Deeply, Painfully, Gratefully.

    I finally outgrew the part of me that accepted abuse because I thought I deserved it, sometimes I felt I was deserving of worse.

    That is the part of me that breaks my heart to remember.

    He took cruelty as proof.

    He confused endurance with love.

    He thought that if he just absorbed enough pain, someone would finally stay.

    No one should have to earn safety. No one should have to prove they’re worthy of kindness.

    Man in black t-shirt and grey shorts sits on a wooden bench with a brown and white American pit bull terrier in the bare trees and fall leaves.

    Outgrowing him wasn’t graceful.

    It was leaving a room I should never have been in. It was learning that the voice that said “you had it coming” was never mine to listen to.

    It was the most harmful echo I’d learned to repeat.

    I don’t miss any of those versions of me. I don’t hate them either. They were doing their best with what they knew.

    What they didn’t know yet was this: I was always meant to grow past them. Every single one and honestly I hope more.

    I mean after all life isn’t about being stagnant.


    Self-Acceptance

    My journey to embrace my true self, shedding the layers that once confined me, speaks volumes to me regarding my level of courage.

    This also highlights my profound commitment to authenticity. The facade I maintained to protect others from my truth, even at the cost of my own visibility, reveals a deep-rooted strength and care for others, yet a simultaneous neglect for my own needs.

    This evolution towards honest self-expression, away from societal expectations or assumed norms, showcases not just personal growth but an emerging confidence to claim my space in the world.

    The painful, yet liberating process of letting go of the parts of me that once accepted mistreatment as a norm suggests a significant shift in my self-worth and understanding of love.

    Pink haired man in glasses and black t-shirt stands in front of a lush wooded area and flowing waterfall.

    Moving forward, I want to channel this newfound appreciation for my authentic self into small acts of rebellion. This could be by wearing something that feels uniquely me, sharing my thoughts in a setting where I might have held back before, a new outfit to a new hairstyle, or even a new hobby.

    Each one serves as a gentle reminder of my right to be seen and heard. Never again for how comfortably I fit into the world, but for how true I am within it.


    TLDR:

    This Storia journal prompt unexpectedly turned into a reflection on the versions of myself I had to outgrow to survive and become whole.

    From hiding my transition and living for other people’s comfort to accepting treatment I never deserved, this entry explores grief, growth, and the difficult process of choosing authenticity.

    Growth was not graceful, but I am grateful for every version of me that carried me here, and every version I still have left to become.


    Take this a step further:

    Be my homie on Storia

    A Mother’s Day Journal Entry


  • J.K. Rowling Racism Analyzing the Prejudice in the Wizarding World

    J.K. Rowling Racism Analyzing the Prejudice in the Wizarding World


    Best for:

    Social justice advocates, cultural critics, former J.K. Rowling fans, and media literacy educators.

    The Vault:

    • Core themes: media literacy, racial bias, representation, systemic prejudice, cultural appropriation, and accountability in storytelling.
    • Examines: naming conventions, ethnic stereotyping, coded imagery, and patterns of exclusion within fictional world-building.
    • Discusses: anti-Black, anti-Irish, antisemitic, Indigenous, and Asian representation critiques tied to the Wizarding World.
    • Explores: how fiction can normalize harmful narratives and why critical analysis of beloved media matters.
    • Best read when: you are open to questioning familiar stories and examining the politics hidden beneath nostalgia.

    The Cracks in the Wizarding World:

    For years, the Harry Potter series was heralded as a manifesto for the marginalized, centered on the fight against “blood purity” and institutional evils.

    However, as the creator’s public stance has shifted toward more overt forms of exclusion, a retroactive audit of the text reveals a disturbing foundation.

    That the J.K. Rowling racism controversies aren’t just isolated “marks” or social media blunders; they are a series of systemic choices in world-building that rely on lazy tropes, ethnic caricatures, and the “othering” of non-white identities.

    This post serves as a comprehensive breakdown, that works to accurately document why these patterns matter. As well as look at how they reflect a deeper, more insidious form of bigotry. By examining the naming of characters, the use of historical stereotypes, and the colonization of global mythologies, we can see how the franchise often fails the very people it claims to protect.


    The Power of a Name – Linguistic Negligence & Othering:

    In a world where names are supposed to be unique and magical, the naming of minority characters in the series often feels like a dismissal of their actual heritage. This is a primary pillar of the J.K. Rowling racism controversies. Where we see characters of color are often reduced to a single, poorly researched identity.

    The Shacklebolt Symbolism:

    One of the most glaring examples is Kingsley Shacklebolt. While he is one of the most capable and dignified Black characters in the series, his surname, Shacklebolt, is an unavoidable reference to the history of chattel slavery.

    In a series written by a white British author, giving the most prominent Black man a name that contains the word “shackle” is at best a massive failure of empathy. Though we should expect more from platformed authors and at worst this is a coded reminder of historical bondage.

    This serves to tether his identity to a history of trauma rather than allowing him the same neutral, whimsical naming conventions afforded to white characters like Dumbledore, Voldemort, or even Weasley.

    The Cho Chang Debate:

    Then there is Cho Chang. The name has become a global shorthand for “lazy naming.” By combining two common surnames. Especially when you consider that one is typically Korean and the other one is typically Chinese. Couple the multiple lineage with the fact she is using them as a first and last name we see that Rowling created a moniker that doesn’t actually exist as a standard name in either culture.

    This linguistic “mash-up” flattens the vast and distinct cultures of the Asian diaspora into a singular, “vaguely Eastern” caricature. It signals to the reader that these characters don’t require the same depth of research or cultural accuracy as their European counterparts.


    European Caricatures – The Irish and the Goblins:

    The prejudice in the series isn’t limited to far-off cultures; it is baked into the depiction of the UK’s own neighbors and historical “others.” These instances highlight how the J.K. Rowling racism controversies extend into ethnic stereotyping within the British Isles and beyond.

    Seamus Finnigan and the “Troubles” Trope:

    The character of Seamus Finnigan provides a subtle but pointed example of anti-Irish sentiment. In the film adaptations, which were overseen by Rowling, Seamus’s defining character trait is his propensity for things to blow up in his face.

    In the context of the 1990s and early 2000s, the “Irishman who blows things up” was a direct, insensitive reference to the “Irish Bomber.” These stereotypes were used to vilify the Irish during the their troubles. By turning a history of violent conflict into a “quirky” character flaw, the narrative trivializes the real-world suffering of the Irish people under British rule.

    The Gringotts Goblins & Antisemitism:

    Perhaps the most debated aspect of the J.K. Rowling racism controversies is the depiction of the Goblins. With their hooked noses, sallow skin, and obsession with gold and banking. We see use of the physical and societal descriptions of the Goblins to mirror medieval antisemitic tropes with uncomfortable precision.

    • Portrayed as a “secretive” and “untrustworthy” race that controls the money of the wizarding world.
    • They are legally barred from carrying wands, mirroring historical laws that barred Jewish people from certain professions and rights.
    • The visual language used in the films, including the Star of David on the floor of the Gringotts set (a real-world location), only served to solidify these connections in the public consciousness.

    The Colonization of Global Magic:

    As the franchise expanded into the Fantastic Beasts series, the J.K. Rowling racism controversies took on a more global, colonialist tone.

    Co-opting Indigenous Traditions:

    When Rowling released her “History of Magic in North America,” she was met with immediate pushback from Indigenous scholars. She took the Navajo legend of the “Skinwalker.” Which is a sacred and sensitive cultural tradition, and turned it into a mere “wizardry world” plot point.

    This is clearly more “Columbusing” of Native American culture. Where white people are seen taking what looks “cool” or “magical” while ignoring the living people and their history of genocide. This is a textbook example of cultural racism. One that treats Indigenous cultures as a “resource” to be mined rather than as sovereign traditions to be respected.

    The Subservience of Nagini:

    The reveal that Voldemort’s snake, Nagini, was actually a cursed Asian woman (played by Claudia Kim) added another “strike” to the list. The optics of a woman of color being a “pet” to a white supremacist villain. Then to only be decapitated by a white hero later, tapped directly into the “Dragon Lady” and “submissive Asian woman” tropes. She reinforced the idea that characters of color exist solely to serve the narrative arcs of white protagonists.


    The “Happy Slave” Narrative – The Double Entendre of the House-Elf:

    One cannot discuss the J.K. Rowling racism controversies without addressing the House-elves. This is where the narrative’s “double entendre” of slavery becomes most apparent.

    • Internalized Oppression: The narrative suggests that House-elves (with the exception of Dobby) actually want to be enslaved. When Hermione tries to free them through S.P.E.W., she is portrayed to be treating them as an annoying, “bossy” outsider who doesn’t understand that they “like” their work.
    • Justification of Bondage: This mirrors the historical pro-slavery rhetoric used in the American South, which claimed that enslaved people were “better off” or “happier” under the paternalistic care of their masters.
    • The Hogwarts Kitchens: The fact that Hogwarts is a place the reader is meant to love, but is powered by unpaid, enslaved labor. Then that labor is kept “out of sight” is a chilling reflection of how systemic racism and exploitation are often ignored. Especially when they are providing comfort to the privileged class.

    Marking the Strikes of Bigotry:

    In analyzing the J.K. Rowling racism controversies, it becomes clear that the Wizarding World is not the inclusive sanctuary many once thought it to be. Instead, it is a map of the creator’s own blind spots and prejudices.

    From the “shackles” of Kingsley, the “explosive” caricatures of the Irish, and the “greedy” tropes of the Goblins, the “marks” against this franchise are numerous and factual.

    By calling out these instances, we aren’t just “hating” on a popular book series; we are performing a necessary autopsy on the media we consume. We are identifying the “scars” of racism and ensuring that the next generation of storytelling doesn’t rely on the same tired, harmful tropes.

    True advocacy means holding even our favorite stories accountable to the truth.


    TLDR:

    This post works to examine the Wizarding World through the lens of media criticism and asks whether the racism critiques surrounding J.K. Rowling are isolated controversies or signs of deeper patterns within the text itself.

    By exploring character naming, historical stereotypes, cultural appropriation, and narratives around race and power, this breakdown argues that harmful ideas can exist even inside stories many people love.

    Holding media accountable is not about destroying nostalgia. It is about understanding what messages are embedded beneath it.


    Further Your Reading:

    Elon Musk J.K. Rowling

    Lund University

    NMU Commons


  • Success Reclaimed – Doing Enough the Overlooked Radical Victory

    Success Reclaimed – Doing Enough the Overlooked Radical Victory


    Best for:
    Exhausted lower and middle class professionals on the steady grind, indie creative people constantly fighting algorithms, and the burnt-out friends managing high-stakes interpersonal relationships.


    The Vault

    • The mechanical failure of the moving goalpost in professional and personal growth.
    • Distinguishing your physical capacity from the toxic “requirements” of modern culture.
    • Reclaiming the Default to Zero mindset to celebrate every authentic action.
    • Addressing the “Celebration Deficit” formed by unrealistic metrics and corporate retaliation.

    “Just because you could be doing more doesn’t mean you have not done enough.”

    A Night Shift Epiphany:

    I was at work the other night, when I was reminded of an overlooked radical victory we should all try to focus on more. This was also my third night shift of four, back-to-back. Not to mention it was also my longest shift of the week, a 16-hour true-double. These long marathon-like shifts typically leave me feeling more like a well-oiled machine than anything close to resembling a human.

    We had just finished the midnight bed-checks, I took my seat and opened my phone. I was scrolling through TikTok one-hundred percent focused on killing a little time and trying to keep myself slightly entertained until the next time I was needed for assistance.

    I was just scrolling away, and I flicked right past the video as I heard a woman claiming she had a quote that would change the listener’s life for the better, through positive thinking.

    Though, if we are being honest, my immediate internal reaction was a cynical “yeah, right,” I think I even scoffed out loud.

    I did, obviously scroll back just to see what the “great” quote was, and the words she shared actually stopped me in my tracks.

    “Just because you could be doing more doesn’t mean you have not done enough.”

    She proceeded to smile and say something to the effect of “You heard me, in all you come to do stop looking at what you didn’t do, look at what you were able to do.”

    Those few seconds and couple of sentences exposed the lie we are all living willingly, in almost an instant. These days we find ourselves often stuck in a world that is always expecting more…

    More access to us,

    more content,

    more authentic views into our private lives,

    more time,

    and even more productivity.

    Whether it is a corporations internal management team expecting us to bridge their staffing gaps or a friend giving us a look that resembles our childhood dog’s droopy puppy-like eyes. We are constantly guilt-tripped both as a manipulative tactic and on accident.

    Consider this:

    What happens though, when we have nothing more to give?

    Is the pressure to fulfill someone else’s need out of fear of being replaced still just as relentless?

    My POV:

    I for one feel that it is good to be reminded that whatever we offer, even the days we find ourselves able to offer nothing, choosing to prioritize our own mental health, still ensures we win.

    Doing something at all is a feat in itself when navigating a world full of people who appear kin to the birds screaming “mine” in “Finding Nemo.” This is the only way to do more for ourselves than to simply survive.


    External Pressure:

    The external voices demanding more usually start by turning our boundaries into obstacles, creating a landscape of expectation that is impossible to satisfy.

    These seekers of the never-ending more in our lives show up in personal, professional, and creative avenues more often than others at least when I consider my own lives experiences.

    The “More, More, More” People:

    • Interpersonal: These are the specific people who always have one more request. You know the moment you give an inch, and they appear to turn their sad puppy eyes towards you while they give you “the look.” Or worse an obviously not authentic sob story.
    • Corporate: Manifesting as our managers that treat extra shifts as the baseline. Then they turn around and attempt to punish employees who have the audacity to take our earned and scheduled time off.
    • Creative: For the indie creative individuals, it is the algorithm’s ever-changing rules breathing down our backs, demanding high-volume content just to grow visibility.

    Comparison Distortion & Privilege:

    We often judge ourselves when we show up. Then we double down and compare our outcome or actions with how someone else did. No matter the instance, the someone else most likely has a completely different ability and set of privileges than our own.

    When it comes to algorithms, others may also be using paid promotions or are simply more favored by the algorithm’s bias over queer, advocacy, and community-forward things in my case. In the workforce, our supervisors can feed this by comparing employees to each other when you do not agree to give them more of your free time.

    Hocking Hills State Park, Ohio Caucasian man wearing a graphic multi color t-shirt, checkerboard black and white backpack straps showing in front of iconic Hocking Hills waterfall green pool and sandstone cliffs showing in the background. Expressing overlook radical victory.

    The Internal Trap:

    When the external pressure is loud enough for a long enough period of time, it creates an internal identity crisis that rots our self- perspective.

    • Interpersonally: There is a haunting fear that if we stop going outside of your ability for people, we will lose our value to them. I’m not sure when, but we have started to view us not being able to fix the problems of our friends as a moral failure.
    • Corporately: We internalize the toxic way management speaks as if we are the cause of their staffing issues, taking the blame for their lack of communication.
    • Creative: Indie folks see this turn into feeling like our creations aren’t worthy of being sold because the algorithms favor the replaceable high-volume creators over the authentic voice.

    The Mechanical Failures of Logic:

    The logic of the never-ending more is fundamentally broken because it relies on shifting targets and impossible standards.

    The Moving Goalpost Trap:

    Meeting a social requirement usually only leads to the expectation that we will immediately jump higher. In the corporate world, taking on extra days only leads to management treating our extra-work as the new permanent baseline. The moment you need your scheduled time back, you are treated as a burden.

    Capacity vs. Requirement:

    We have to work at recognizing that our capacity to answer a noon text when we work third shift later that night doesn’t mean the relationship requires it. There needs to be a clear gap between what each of us can take on mentally and what we are unwilling to budge on for our own safety.


    The Threshold of Diminishing Returns:

    Eventually, over-thinking and over-giving both typically start to cause friction in our minds and lives. This threshold is where our improvements stop and our sanity breaks.

    The Myth of the Final State:

    Reclaiming our own lives requires accepting that there is no final state where any of us have done it all.

    • Relationships: These are daily practice rituals, not a level we can beat.
    • Corporations: Management often uses empty threats; it is not a reflection of your work ethic.
    • Algorithms: The biased algorithm will never be 100% accurate or responsive in the way we want always.

    The Path to Being Enough:

    The Default to Zero Mindset:

    We need to work at resetting our expectations so that a simple check-in is seen more like a radical overlooked victory.

    Our work ethics are a direct reflection of the work we do that is required, not what a manager says when we tell them “not this time, pal.”

    The Devaluation of Completion:

    We must acknowledge and celebrate that we show up consistently. Clocking out after a shift and enjoying ourselves and our freedom from the man is a victory we all should relish in more often.


    TLDR:

    In a world addicted to the never-ending more, doing enough is a radical success.

    Whether you are finishing a 16-hour shift or an indie creative project, our value is defined by our boundaries, not our output volume.


    Further Reading:

    Work place strategies for mental health

    Reddit- the algorithm won’t build your brand people will

    A poem about being the mirror of others


  • Bully Breeds – The Worst or the Best?

    Bully Breeds – The Worst or the Best?



    Best For:

    Dog lovers, individuals who volunteer at animal shelters, those looking for advice choosing companion animals, and people who have an interest in learning about dogs through lived experiences.

    The Vault:

    • What is a pit bull by definition? The only dog technically considered to be a pit bull is the American Pit bull Terrier.
    • The Science of the Bully Breeds bite and the misconceptions behind the locking jaw myth.
    • The small vs large breed myths.
    • The legal trap set against bully breeds in Ohio and their removal from the vicious dog list.
    • Bully Breeds high arousal brain, going from 0-100, and the reactive dog.

    What animals make the best/worst pets?


    The Bully Breed Misconceptions and Facts:

    When it comes to choosing an animal companion we are faced with a high-stakes decision, one that is too often dictated by aesthetic trends or surface-level “best of” lists. Young adults, in particular, rarely take the time needed to research and prepare for their new fur-ever house guests.

    My perspective on this doesn’t come from a pamphlet only; it is formed from experiences gained through the art of animal husbandry. I have taken care of or spent time with more than one dog breed, volunteered at animal shelters, and owned everything from bearded dragons, geckos, and snakes to chameleons, axolotls, birds, rodents, and felines.

    I’ve even managed humans as a scheduler, while I was an assistant manager at a popular coffee chain, and we all know someone who acts more like an animal than the creatures themselves.

    Through Experience:

    During the height of the pandemic, I found myself most focused on the rehabilitation and re-homing of reptiles. Most of these animals were victims of basic husbandry failures. Their owners were people who typically didn’t realize they were bringing a living being with specific needs into their homes.

    Through learning the specific care needs and trauma responses I have been bitten by snakes, latched onto by geckos, and lunged at by so-called “nice” dogs. It has been during these experiences that I’ve reached a polarizing conclusion: the animal at the top of both lists for the best and worst pets to own is none other than the beloved bully breeds.

    This isn’t a slight against these dogs in the slightest. I am an advocate for and the owner of an American Pit Bull Terrier (APBT), Luna. This beautiful girl is my soul dog. That does not change the fact that when we look at the bully breeds misconceptions and facts, we have to be brutally honest.

    Brown & White APBT sits on a Wooden armchair in Granville, Ohio at Spring Valley Nature Preserve - Bully Breeds

    These dogs are the “worst” pets not because of their inherent nature, but because society has rigged the game against them. Do know that when I say bully breeds, I am talking about the lovable “block-head” umbrella term: Staffordshire Terriers, APBTs, XXL Bullies, American Bulldogs, and others.

    I also am including breeds mixed to create that muscular build gets dragged into this conversation. This lack of nuance in labeling is the first step in a system designed to fail both the dog and the owner.


    The Science of the Bite & the Lockjaw Lie:

    The most persistent lie in the talk surrounding bully breeds commonly used to backup the legislation used against them is “alligator lockjaw.” I have seen an embarrassing amount of people swear that bully breeds have a specialized mechanism that freezes, or locks their jaw after they bite down. Factually, this is not even close to the truth.

    When you look at the research from experts like Dr. I. Lehr Brisbin at the University of Georgia, you will learn that the jaw structure of bully breeds, including the APBT are functionally identical to any other breed.

    There is no biological ratchet joint, no specialized enzyme, and no physical mechanism that “locks.” They are dogs, not crocodiles; they hold on because of selective breeding for tenacity and the game-play of it not because they are physically stuck.

    Smiling brown and White APBT in blue collar on a yellow leash stands next to a shale cliff in a shallow stream. The lovable bully breeds.

    Beyond the lockjaw myth is the weaponization of their force. Uninformed individuals seem to love painting these dogs as having a superhuman grip, but the referenced data tells a different story. I have included below a list of bite force by breed:

    • American Pit Bull Terrier Bite Force: Measures at roughly 235 PSI.
    • German Shepherd Bite Force: Often used in police work, these dogs clock in higher at 238 PSI.
    • Rottweiler Bite Force: Can exceed 320 PSI
    • Mastiff Bite Force: can top 550 PSI.

    The narrative of the “super-predator” is a fabrication built on fear, not physics or facts.

    Brown and white pit bull dozing off in the sunlight sitting in the front seat of a car with grey and black interior. one of the dogs seen in bully breeds list

    The Double Standard – Small Breeds vs. Bully Breeds:

    One of the most frustrating aspects of the bully breeds misconceptions is the pass given to small, more often aggressive breeds. People joke about their mean-ass tiny ankle-biting dogs, but their aggression rarely tracked with the same vitriol as bully breeds and other large dogs.

    In August 2010, a more famously known case in Michigan involved a Jack Russell terrier named Kiko that chewed off its diabetic owner’s infected toe while he was asleep.

    While the owner credited the dog with “saving his life” by alerting him to the infection, leading to his diagnosis. This incident highlights a massive double standard: if any dog labeled as one of the bully breeds had “amputated” a digit, it would have been a national headline about a vicious beast. Kiko being a small dog, became a quirky human-interest story.

    The reality is that “small dog syndrome” often involves significantly more unprovoked bites, but they are seen as “cute,” so the danger is dismissed.

    The vicious Bully Breeds are known to play in the creek. Shown is a brown & white APBT stands in a shallow stream at Spring Valley Nature Preserve in Granville Ohio in the spring sun

    The “Pit bull” Identity Crisis – Defining Bully Breeds:

    In the world of bully breeds and the misconceptions that accompany them, another large hurdle are the words in themselves. “Pit bull” and “Bully Breeds” are not singular breeds; they are both slang terms that have been weaponized into generic labels.

    When people say “Pit bull,” or “Bully Breeds” they should be referring to one specific dog, though more commonly they end up mislabeling four or five other breeds in the process. To be a helpful and real advocate to dogs, you have to know the difference between the actual breed and the “bully breeds” aesthetic.

    • The American Pit Bull Terrier (APBT): The only dog that can technically be called a “Pit bull.” They are medium-sized, athletic, and lean. This dog breed was bred for performance and tenacity, not just for their mass. This is the breed Luna belongs to, my soul dog that is often the most misunderstood, just like me.
    • The American Staffordshire Terrier (AmStaff): One of the dog breeds labeled as bully breeds that are often confused with the APBT. The AmStaff is generally shorter, heavier-set, and broader. While they share common ancestors, they have been bred for different standards (show vs. performance) for nearly a century.
    • The Staffordshire Bull Terrier: These are the smaller, “English” versions also under the bully breeds range of misconceptions. They are significantly shorter and more compact, often weighing nearly twenty pounds less than the APBT. Yet, they are still dragged into “vicious breed” legislation because of their blocky heads.
    • The American Bully (& XXL Bullies): This is a more modern breed, often a mix of various bulldog and terrier types designed specifically for a massive, hyper-muscular look. While people claim they look the most intimidating, out of the dogs considered to be bully breeds, they are often the most docile. Even though they carry the heaviest weight of the “Pit bull” label.
    • The American Bulldog: Frequently mistaken for a Pit bull by law enforcement and shelters, these are much larger, taller dogs than the others labeled as bully breeds. They are true “working” bulldogs, not terriers, but because they often have white coats and block-heads, they are almost always mislabeled in bite statistics.

    When a shelter or a typical “Karen” at the dog park points at a muscular dog and calls it a Pit bull or presents a myth about bully breeds as fact, they are ignoring decades of breed history, research, and genetics. By lumping these distinct breeds into one harmful category, society ensures that any mistake made by one animal is blamed on all of them. Knowing the actual Pit bull and other bully breeds misconceptions is the perfect place to start ending the stigma with fact-based knowledge.

    Axton is closer to viewer than the other two images Axton stands down the trail facing away in a grey tank top, green shoes, black backwards hat, & Khaki pants with Luna the red nosed APBT near his side on leash facing straight ahead with Axton both are mid stride. Bully Breeds in Nature.
    We know each other beyond words; We are in tune.

    The Frontier Guardian – America’s Original Catch Dog:

    While modern society tries to erase their history or condense it into blood sports, the American Pit Bull Terrier was the backbone of the American frontier. When these dogs arrived in the 19th century, they were the primary “catch dogs” for semi-feral livestock.

    Of the dogs labeled under bully breeds the APBT was the first line of defense for families against wild predators. This is why the breed is so intensely intuitive; they were bred to be “Velcro dogs” that never left their owner’s side. While they also possessed the explosive power needed to protect a homestead.

    Understanding this heritage is the only way to understand why they are so devoted to their families; this is the why behind their high-energy personalities today.

    Luna a red nosed APBT aka a member of the  bully breeds. Luna is in a blue collar sniffs around the skylight on top of Manchan Rock

    The Legislative Trap – Ohio & the Vicious Dog:

    In Ohio, the law is often a paradox. On February 21st, 2012, House Bill 14 (HB 14) was signed. This bill worked at finally removing the “Pit Bull” from the automatic “vicious dog” definition. On paper, they are now just dogs.

    In practice, the vicious dog breed label on the ground is a trap. Most public dog parks have rules stating you cannot bring a “vicious dog breed” into the enclosure. Even though the state says that the Pit bull isn’t automatically vicious, local officials, shelters, and park wardens still have the authority to designate a dog as “vicious” or “dangerous” based on subjective appearance typically aimed at bully breeds.

    If a park official assumes your Pit bull is a threat and a “vicious breed,” they can single you out and remove your dog from the park. You risk being banned from community spaces based on a subjective assumption of what a “vicious breed” actually is, regardless of how the dog is behaving. This is the struggle of ownership in states like Ohio: the law changed, but the bias stayed exactly as is.

    A brown and white dog in a blue bow-tie collar in a cliff. Typically labeled under the bully breeds category, APBT, or Pit Bull.

    Luna the Dog With The Cat-Raised Soul:

    Luna, is the living proof that the “vicious” label is a failure of the human imagination. She is my favorite thing in the world. One beautiful example of a creature that understands me as much as, if not more than, I understand myself.

    Luna is unique because of how she was raised. She has four cats that are her brothers. Other cats were a part of her younger years as well. I feel that since Luna has been around cats her entire life, she was able to adopt a feline-like identity that completely contradicts the “block-head” or typical aesthetic that accompanies bully breeds.

    • Feline Behaviors: Luna spends a lot of her time on the back of the couch like a cat, perched and observing the world on the outside of the window. She sometimes will be caught “making biscuits” (kneading) when she’s happy
      and she has a refined palate for stolen cat food.
    • The Bond: She and my rescue cat clean, cuddle, and sleep with each other daily. They have a bond that proves temperament is often a product of environment and social raising rather than just the shape of the skull.
    • Reactivity Truths: While she is 100% cat-safe indoors, she is extremely dog-reactive, until correct introductions. She also views outdoor cats as “wild” seemingly due to their smell being like the outdoors. This wild smell triggers a different instinct entirely. This isn’t “random aggression”; it’s a specific, documented reaction to environmental scents that owners must be smart enough to manage.
    Brown and white APBT in blue T-shirt on leash in the snow.

    The High-Arousal Brain – Why They Go from 0 to 100:

    The “reactivity” many owners struggle with isn’t necessarily aggression; it’s a biological state called high arousal. APBTs also sometimes labeled loosely as bully breeds have a unique neurological makeup where their dopamine and adrenaline levels spike faster and stay elevated longer than other breeds.

    This explains why a dog like Luna might “make biscuits” or knead to self-soothe. Luna is literally trying to bring her arousal levels down. It also explains why they can become hyper-fixated on a scent or another dog.

    Bully breeds struggle without owners who understand how to manage these biological intensities. These dog breeds are set up for a “vicious” label when it’s really just over-stimulation, like a lot of us experience.

    Caucasian man in jeans, black t-shirt, and green & orange croc junipers walks towards the camera with a brown pit bull in Perry State Forest.

    Why They Are the “Worst” Pets for the Majority:

    The central paradox of Pit bull and Bully breeds misconceptions is that they are the best dogs frequently owned by the wrong people.

    They are the “worst” pet because ownership requires a level of advocacy that 90% of the population isn’t ready for. It seems most owners get a bully breed for their “look” without realizing these are highly sensitive, intuitive animals that require meticulous husbandry.

    • Shelter Mislabeling: Rescues frequently label every muscular mutt as a “Pit bull” or simply as bully breeds to fulfill a narrative or simply because they don’t know the difference between an American Bulldog and an APBT. This ruins the reputation of the actual breed.
    • The Advocate’s Burden: When you own any bully breeds, you are fighting the neighbors who think every bark is a threat and the park officials who think your dog’s head shape is a crime. You are signing up for a life of being looked at as a criminal just for having a “soul dog.”

    Dermatological Data – The High Cost of the “Itchy” Pit bull:

    The chronic nature of skin issues in American Pit Bull Terriers is supported by massive veterinary and insurance datasets. In 2024 and 2025, skin allergies became the #1 claim for dogs nationwide, with insurance data showing a 13% increase in individual cases over previous years.

    For the APBT owner, this isn’t just a seasonal itch; it is a year-round battle that costs them an average of $841 annually just for symptom management. Clinical surveys from 2024 identify that nearly 26% of all canine dermatological cases are allergic in nature, with Pit bull-type breeds being specifically noted for a higher-than-average genetic predisposition to canine atopic dermatitis.

    If you are not factoring in the nearly 9 in 10 chance that your bully breeds will struggle with some form of skin irritation or environmental sensitivity during their life, you are ignoring the statistical reality of the breed.

    Brown & White APBT seated on owners Green and Orange shoe on trail

    The $5,000 Knee & the 87% Temperament Pass Rate:

    If the skin issues don’t break your bank, the “Cruciate Crisis” likely will. Their hyper-muscular build and straight rear-leg angulation cause bully breeds to have the highest rates of Cranial Cruciate Ligament (CCL) tears.

    A single TPLO surgery can cost between $3,500 and $6,000. However, the trade-off for this high-maintenance biology is one of the most stable temperaments in the canine kingdom. According to the American Temperament Test Society (ATTS), the APBT consistently maintains an 87.4% pass rate.

    This is officially higher than the passing rates for Beagles, Golden Retrievers, and Border Collies, proving that their baseline nature is stability, not malice.

    Luna a red dog from the back view, blue collar, yellow and blue flowered leash, walking on the worn trail between large shoots of spring folage growth at Rock Mill

    The Nanny Dog Myth – Rebranding vs. Reality:

    In the world of Pit bull and bully breeds misconceptions, perhaps no claim is more romanticized or more dangerous than the “Nanny Dog” title. Pro-pit bull advocates often claim that in the 19th and early 20th centuries, these dogs were specifically bred to watch over children.

    This is historically false. Extensive research of newspaper archives and breed books from the 1800s through the mid-1900s shows zero mention of the term “nanny dog” or “child-watching dog” in relation to any bully breeds.

    • The Origin Point: This term was actually coined in 1971 by Lillian Rant, the President of the Staffordshire Bull Terrier Club of America. In a New York Times interview titled “A Breed That Came Up the Hard Way,” she referred to the Stafford as a “nursemaid dog” to help soften the breed’s image and gain AKC recognition.
    • The Fabrication: The idea that mothers would leave their babies in cribs guarded by pit bulls or Bully breeds is a post-fact fabrication used to counter the growing negative press of the 1970s and 1980s. While individual dogs like Luna can be incredibly gentle and intuitive, the breed was originally developed for performance and farm work and not childcare.
    • The Petey Paradox: The visual “proof” most people cite for the nanny myth is Petey (Pal the Wonder Dog), the iconic American Pit Bull Terrier from The Little Rascals (Our Gang). While Petey was an incredible ambassador for the breed’s trainability and gentle nature around children on a film set, he was a professional animal actor, not a babysitter. His presence in pop culture created a false sense of security that the breed is “naturally” programmed to guard children. In reality, Petey’s famous protector behavior was the result of intense professional handling and not a magical “nanny” instinct.

    Promoting the “nanny dog” myth is a failure of advocacy because it encourages irresponsible owners to leave children unsupervised with powerful animals. No dog, regardless of breed or temperament, is a babysitter. To be a real advocate for your “soul dog,” you have to respect their power and their history rather than hiding behind a fairy tale.

    Caucasian man takes horizontal Selfie with brown and white pit bull terrier. Grass blue skies and lake in background

    The Author of the Truth:

    We wrap this up by recognizing that being a spiritual naturalist and creative advocate extends even to the animals we choose to protect. We started by looking at the fear-based Pit bull and bully breeds misconceptions like lockjaw, the exaggerated bite force, and the legislative traps of the “vicious dog” label. But we conclude with the reality of the “Soul Dog.”

    To own one is to be an active journalist and advocate of their true nature in the face of a society that wants them gone. If you aren’t ready to be the bridge between the prehistoric loyalty of the dogs under the umbrella terms for bully breeds and the modern absurdity of the system, then stay away from the breed, full-stop. They deserve owners who see them as they are, cats making biscuits in a warrior’s body, as well as owners who are more willing to fight for them every single day.

    Every myth we have examined we have also been able to debunk. The information here has been checked to ensure that there are no opinions disguised as facts.

    Axton in a black beanie and green sweater with a red and white coat dog in front of smaller Dundee falls exploring the geography of grief

    TLDR:

    The narrative surrounding the bully breeds is a complex tapestry of biological facts often overshadowed by societal fiction. From the debunked lockjaw myths and exaggerated bite force statistics to the legislative hurdles in states like Ohio, these dogs face a system designed to fail them.

    This breed needs owners willing to commit to the advocacy required to eradicate the false stereotypes surrounding them. We are moving beyond the “Nanny Dog” fairy tales and recognizing the APBT and its cousins as high-arousal, sensitive, working animals that demand a deep understanding of their unique neurological makeup.

    Choosing to own and love any one of the bully breeds is a commitment to becoming a living ledger for your dog’s true nature. They are often the most stable companions consistently boasting higher temperament scores than many breeds considered to be family favorites.

    The financial and social burdens of ownership may end up being significant. For those people willing to navigate the medical costs and the stigma of their unearned “vicious” label, the reward is often a “soul dog” bond that bridges the gap between prehistoric loyalty and modern-day resilience.

    Luna the Red-Nosed American Pitbull smiling and standing in the stream at Indian Falls in Dublin, Ohio

    Light Reading Related to Bully Breeds:


    Brown and white member of the bully breeds category of dogs sitting pretty on a wooden dock in front of small lake or pond with white fluffy clouds and clear blue skies in the background.
  • Hiking Fairfield County- 2 Location Trek:

    Hiking Fairfield County- 2 Location Trek:


    Best for:

    Geology enthusiasts, local individuals looking to get outside more, Ohio history buffs, individuals hiking Fairfield County, and hikers seeking rugged Appalachian foothills without the tourist crowds.


    Trail Notes

    • Total Distance: 3.9 miles combined across both park locations.
    • Elevation: Moderate gain with a steep incline toward the Buck Run summit.
    • Key Sights: An 1824 Gristmill, Black Hand sandstone boulders, a waterfall, and two covered bridges.
    • Terrain: Unmanicured forest paths, rocky outcroppings, live-stream views, steep inclines. and lakeside loops.
    A wooden park sign posted on a tree near a rocky cliffside at rock mill.

    The Pull of the Unseen – Hiking Fairfield County:

    Fairfield County, Ohio holds a specific type of tension between Ohio’s unmanicured past and our modern focus on natural preservation. This trek wasn’t about following every rule, but seldomly do I follow rules exactly as written.

    Kylie and I hit the road at close to 11 am with the goal of locating what was left in the Illinoian Glacier’s path while we were hiking through Fairfield County, Ohio.

    A person in a red hoodie and dark pants posing on a gravel trail in the woods pointing at flower petals on the trail whiling hiking Fairfield county.

    This hiking journal will break down our hike on May 1st through two distinct environments: the architectural weight and natural water elements of Stebelton Park at Rock Mill and the high-ridge topography of Charles Alley Nature Park. Wait are you waiting for let’s get to hiking Fairfield County.

    We hiked up one of the steep geological knobs that define the edge of the Appalachian Plateau and embraced the practical reality of navigating trails that don’t always want you there.


    Rock Mill Gorge – Stebelton Park’s Historic Grit:

    First Stop – Hiking Fairfield County:

    Our first stop brought us to an 1824 gristmill; this massive structure finally ground grain again in 2017 after a century of silence. While the mill is the centerpiece, the gorge itself is the real draw.

    There’s a schedule for the warmer months during this time the gorge trail and mill are actually open. These are known as the “Rock Mill Days,” and they take place from May through October, on Wednesdays and Saturdays (11-2) or Sundays (1-4). During these times you can catch more action and crowds.

    A selfie of a man in a black hoodie with a waterfall and rocky cliffs in the background.

    However, the park offers year-round access to the covered bridge, picnic areas, and overlook views of the waterfall at Stebelton Park. This allowed for a quick, albeit rebellious, .6-mile trek behind the no hiking sign compliments of the police.

    While there is a sign that suggests you contact the police for permission to access the trail for photos, the reality is a short, hike in and out that allows you to look at the water. Here you’ll also find the very stones that powered Lancaster’s early industry.

    A small waterfall flowing over rocky ledges into a stream near a covered bridge.

    We kept it safe and stayed on the path to protect the flora, but the frontal view made up of the gorge, waterfall, mill, and covered bridge remains one of the most striking 4-acre snapshots in the county. After cutting around the warning sign and following the foot path around the fencing at Rock Mill, we headed toward the deeper woods of Alley Park.


    Glacial Remnants & Buck Run Knob:

    Stop Two – Hiking Fairfield County:

    A trail map mounted on a pedestal in the woods.

    Alley Park, more formally known as Charles Alley Nature Park, offers a more expansive look at how ice and water helped shape Ohio. Roughly 300,000 years ago, the Illinoian Glacier reversed river flows and buried the Black Hand sandstone that now forms the ridges of Buck Run Knob.

    Here we trekked approximately 3.3 miles. We pulled off into a side lot of the park as the main lots closer to Lake Loretta were being used for a school trip. We started at the trailhead near here, rather than taking a direct shot to the knob.

    A man standing on a door way and frame made of logs in the middle of a dense green Fairfield county hike.

    The hike up Buck Run Knob was a violent reminder to our lungs that Ohio isn’t just flat plains. The peak stands 200-250 feet above the surrounding landscape, at over 1000ft in elevation. The knob is topped with eroded sandstone that supports mountain laurel and chestnut oaks, vegetation usually reserved for the southern Appalachians.

    Tattooed Caucasian hand holds large feldspar chunk prior to cleaning, one of the smaller sides faces up showing a line of sheen on the surface.

    I ended up finding a massive piece of feldspar on trail closer to the lake. This large mineral chunk served as a reminder of the diversity tucked away in these Ohio pockets.


    Reconstructed History – The George Hutchins Bridge:

    More Ohio History – Hiking Fairfield County:

    A classic red-painted wooden covered bridge at the end of a gravel path.

    Transitioning from the heights of the knob back down toward the water, you hit the George Hutchins Covered Bridge. This isn’t a structure that is native to this area; it’s a transplant and a survivor.

    The bridge was built in 1865 and moved from Strickler Road, then it sat in storage for twelve years before being pieced back together over Lake Loretta in 2000.

    A person walking away down a narrow dirt path lined with thick green foliage.

    It’s a Kingpost truss design, and the rebuilding of it was done by utilizing about 30% of its original materials to span 50 feet of water.

    It sits as a quiet landmark near the Goslin Nature Center, bridging the gap between the park’s 1978 establishment and the 19th-century history of the region.

    A wooden park bench facing a lake, framed by tall trees rain drops are seen on the water with a covered bridge In the center of the background.

    Closing the Loop:

    We learned while hiking Fairfield County that sometimes the trek is less about the mileage you stack up and more about the layers of history left behind by retreating ice and expanding settlements.

    A scenic view of a calm lake surrounded by lush green trees under an overcast sky. Brown sign with yellow font says lake Loretta

    Between the restricted views of Rock Mill and the open-edge habitats of Alley Park, this trek offered us a look at the hard-earned beauty of the Ohio landscape.

    Whether you are there for the rockhounding, attempting to find your own massive feldspar, or the historical architecture, these trails offer a grounded experience. You can totally avoid the tourist-trap feel of more commercial parks.

    The dark shadow of a  rocky overhang with trees to each side.

    TLDR:

    This hike was a reminder of the “unmanicured” reality in Fairfield County, Ohio’s green areas. We moved from the industrial grit of a grist mill to the over 1000ft elevation of Buck Run Knob. Only after we ignored a sign at Rock Mill to get a better view of the gorge in front of the 1824 mill.

    Only pausing to catch our breath on the “lung-burning” incline of Buck Run Knob where we pushed through to see what the Illinoian Glacier left behind.

    A selfie of a woman and a man sitting in a car; the man  is making a peace sign.

    Putting the cherry on top of a good trip when I found a massive piece of Feldspar near the lake. This was a day in nature spent avoiding tourist crowds and finding the rugged, hard-earned beauty of the Appalachian edge.


    Plan Your Trip – Hiking Fairfield County:

    Lancaster Parks- Alley Park
    Fairfield County Parks- Rock Mill

    Our other trip to Rock Mill


  • Building an Authentic Network for Advice

    Building an Authentic Network for Advice

    List the people you admire and look to for advice…

    Best for:

    Indie creative individuals, healthcare professionals, and those seeking to filter out the noise in order make more informed decisions.


    The Vault:

    • Identify the specific strengths of your inner circle ensures you get the right feedback for the exact problem at hand.
    • Professional growth in clinical environments relies heavily on the collective, real-time experience of your coworkers.  
    • Enduring maternal advice provides a foundational compass that outlasts immediate, day-to-day challenges.
    • Search engines are best used for raw data gathering, never replacing the necessary friction of human intuition.

    Seeking Advice:

    When you are trying to cut through the noise, a simple search query rarely gives you the grit and context you actually need. Modern society attempts to rely heavily on algorithms, but the most honest and reliable insights actually come from the people standing right next to us.

    Building an authentic network when you need advice means deliberately choosing who in your life you seek for advice and based on the specific purpose. In my world this looks a lot like balancing my clinical and creative needs with the personal ones.

    To understand how this works in practice, we have to look at the different types of voices that I seek to shape my decisions.


    The Lifeline – My Partner & Friends:

    The people closest to us usually do not just offer one type of advice; often those people in my life hold a multitude of different kinds of advice. Some offer a mirror or window to allow me to view exactly what I needed to know.

    My partner, Kelsey, for instance is a stabilizing force, providing the kind of nonjudgmental, grounding feedback that keeps the daily chaos of my daily life in check. They are someone I go to for help with practically everything especially color-theory, design, and emotional issues I may be having.

    My friends expand this network even further. I sometimes will pick some of their brains for business advice since a few of them are navigating the realities of owning their own small businesses or also self publishing. Beyond the professional and creative friction needed to polish a rough draft, they are also who I look to for life advice.

    On the other hand I also have friends who have experienced the loss of a parent. These friends offer me an invaluable, shared, and irreplaceable point of view on my newfound grief and burden. Research highlights that multidimensional interpersonal advice from close relationships is critical for shaping both our professional trajectories and our emotional resilience.

    While personal relationships provide the emotional anchor, professional environments demand a different kind of tactical support.


    Clinical Precision: The Value of Nursing Coworker’s

    In high-stress, technical environments, peer support is not just a nice concept; it is a functional requirement. Relying on coworkers in a clinical setting provides a real-time, sounding board for complex medical advice and workplace navigation. You cannot Google the nuanced instincts of a seasoned nurse. Studies in clinical settings show that peer mentorship significantly improves problem-solving, resilience, and even patient outcomes. It is a shared language built on the front lines.  

    Moving from the professional sphere back to the foundational, there is a level of guidance that outlasts any single career or project.


    The Roots – Maternal Wisdom:

    Some advice echoes long after the person who gave it is gone. The influence of a mother often serves as the bedrock for how we approach major life decisions. When I look back, the guidance she offered was rarely about the logistics of a problem but rather the character required to face it. It is a visceral, enduring standard. Studies on parental influence confirm that maternal warmth and ideologies fundamentally shape our long-term decision-making frameworks.

    Yet, for all the human elements of our network, there is still a place for the machine.


    The Digital Oracle – Knowing When to Search:

    Search engines do however have a role, but they are tools, not mentors. They are excellent for aggregating data, checking facts, or for a starting point. I use them when I need raw information, not when I need wisdom. An authentic guidance network uses the internet to supplement human intuition, never to replace it.

    Pulling all these distinct voices together ensures that no single problem is viewed through a single lens.

    An authentic guidance network is curated through active, intentional listening. You do not just stumble into good advice; you seek it from the right sources. By valuing the stabilizing truth of a partner, the clinical grit of peers, the enduring wisdom of family, and the utility of digital search, you build a resilient framework for making choices.

    It is about knowing who to ask, when to ask them, and when to trust the foundation they helped you build.


    TLDR:

    Do not rely on a single source or a cold algorithm to navigate life. Build an authentic guidance network by leaning on your partner for truth, your professional peers for tactical grit, your roots for enduring character, and search engines strictly for raw data.

  • Hiking the Mineral Springs Trail at Raccoon Creek State Park, Pennsylvania

    Hiking the Mineral Springs Trail at Raccoon Creek State Park, Pennsylvania


    Best for:

    Urban green area hikers, amateur geologists, local Ohio history buffs, and families seeking a short but rugged forest experience.

    Pink and white trillium with yellow center  surrounded by green leaves


    The Trail Notes:

    • Historic Grotto: The U-shaped shale and sandstone formation at Raccoon Creek State Park featuring a 10-foot seasonal waterfall and iron-rich springs that stain the rock a vivid orange.  
    • Victorian Ruins: Visible stone foundations and steps are all that remain of the Frankfort House, a mid-19th-century health resort.  
    • Botanical Diversity: The trail is a hotspot for native flora, including skunk cabbage in the wetlands and delicate bleeding hearts near the waterfall.
    • Artesian Source: Unlike the surface-fed waterfall at Raccoon Creek State Park, the mineral spring flows year-round from an underground reservoir.  
    White trillium with small pink stripes surrounded by green spring foliage and forest floor.

    The Hike from Childhood:

    Sometimes a hike is more than just a way to stack up more miles; a hike is a way to reconnect with specific memories or honor a tradition. Raccoon Creek State Park is a trek that has always held a deep personal significance for me. This park was a favorite of my mom’s, and returning to these woods always feels like a functional way to keep that connection alive.

    On this day the opportunity presented itself to visit a familiar park from my past, compliments of the doctor’s appointment I had in Aliquippa. Since Kelsey and I pass nearby the park going both ways, this was too good to pass up.

    A group of tan and dark edged mushrooms grow in a tree stump on the forest floor

    This trail feels less like a casual walk and more like stepping into a forgotten pocket of Pennsylvania history as we trekked through Raccoon Creek State Park. It isn’t just a walk through the trees; it’s a transition from the modern world into a rugged, iron-stained ravine that still whispers with the energy of its Victorian-era past. Whether you are coming for the rare spring flora or the geological curiosity of the grotto, this trail offers a direct, honest look at how nature eventually reclaims even the most prestigious human footprints.


    Mineral Springs Trail at Raccoon Creek State Park:

    Raccoon Creek State Park is a massive 7,572-acre expanse in Beaver County, Pennsylvania. The park holds the unique intersection of geological beauty and forgotten Pennsylvania history.

    Arched tree growing in the wood line off the side of the trail.

    Many of the people visiting the state park flock directly to the 101-acre Raccoon Lake for boating, swimming, and other water activities. The true soul of the park lies tucked away in the deep ravines cut by Little Traverse Creek.

    On our recent trip this April 30th, Kelsey, Luna, and I set out to revisit a place that holds a lot of personal weight for me. This was a hike my mom used to love. A little after 2 pm we parked in the small lot across from the main park office to access the Mineral Springs Trail, a path that feels honest and untamed despite its relatively short distance.  

    Pink heart shaped flowers known as bleeding hearts are blooming in front of the grotto surrounded by rocks

    The timing was perfect; the spring afternoon provided clear sunshine and a comfortable temperature that made the 1.6-mile trek feel like a brief escape into another era. We headed toward the Frankfort Mineral Springs, a site that once served as a bustling Victorian-era health spa. If you ask me it always feels like the right moment to touch base with the woods.  


    From Victorian Luxury to Forest Ruins:

    The hike quickly transitions from the sounds of Route 18 into cool, shaded woodlands. One of the most striking features of this trail, aside from the seasonal fall and mineral spring, is the old house foundation after you crest the stone steps or before you get to them, depending which way you chose to take the loop.

    Skunk cabbage lines the trail near route 18 in Pennsylvania

    These ruins are the skeletal remains of the Frankfort House, a resort founded by Edward McGinnis in the mid-1800s. McGinnis, a former keelboatman, believed the iron and sulfur-rich waters had healing powers.

    At its peak, the resort featured a hotel designed like a steamboat, a dance hall, and guest cottages where Pittsburgh’s elite would escape the city’s industrial “drudgeries.”  

    Depending on the way you take you will run into the grotto directly before or after the ruins. As you approach the waterfall, spring, and grotto, the air changes. We even saw bleeding hearts in bloom near the spring. These added a perfect splash of pink to the greenery surrounding the area.

    Small yellow buttercup flower surrounded by grass

    Further down in the wetter sections of the ravine, we spotted plenty of skunk cabbage and small, yellow, buttercup flowers, as my mom called these throughout my childhood. Though the more known identity of these is native Kidney-leaf Buttercup (Ranunculus abortivus) or the Pennsylvania Buttercup. These flowers are known to thrive in the damp, shale-heavy soils here.


    The Iron-Stained Grotto and Seasonal Falls:

    Seasonal waterfall over the edges of the grotto

    The centerpiece of the hike has got to be the U-shaped grotto, a massive overhang carved from horizontal layers of shale and sandstone over thousands of years. Paired thoughtfully by nature with a 10-foot seasonal waterfall that spills over the rim.

    However, if you ask me the real mystery is the spring itself. Emerging directly from the rock wall opposite the falls, the spring water is so heavy with iron that it has painted the stones in deep shades of rust and ochre. Even better yet are the circular bowl shapes eroded into the rock under the spring, catching the water as it moves out of the rock.

    The waterfall is known to dry up during a hot summer. The spring is fed by an artesian reservoir deep underground, ensuring it flows even when the rest of the water levels are low. This constant moisture supports a lush micro-environment within the ravine, making it feel significantly more secluded than the nearby highway would suggest.  

    Orange stained rock wall and bowl eroded in rock below mineral spring

    Our Trip Log:

    Our visit was a beautiful reminder of why this specific trail was a staple for my mom and local hikers still today. Our journey home however, reminded us that trail conditions aren’t the only thing you have to navigate.

    A wreck near the Pennsylvania and West Virginia state line forced us to detour back into PA. We were eventually able to cross into WV near The Highlands in Triadelphia.

    Cars in a line be the pa & wv boarder being rerouted through the emergency turn around while a semi is on its side on. The interstate

    This unexpected loop added over an hour to our travel time, but the memory of the sunshine hitting the grotto made the extra miles on the road much easier to handle.

    Brown and white dog sits with man in green hoodie and black beanie in front of the grotto and seasonal waterfall

    Raccoon Creek State Park remains a place where you can stand in the footprint of a 19th-century hotel one minute and be surrounded by untamed geological formations the next. It’s a relatively short hike with a heavy history, perfect for a quick afternoon immersion.  


    TLDR:

    A short 1.6-mile loop on the Mineral Springs Trail at Raccoon Creek State Park reveals a stunning iron-stained grotto, a 10-foot waterfall, and the stone ruins of a 19th-century “healing” resort. It’s a rugged, botanically rich hike that packs Victorian history and deep-woods energy into a brief trek.  

    Close up of small rock wall with spiderweb on the edge  and forest in the background

    Plan Your Trip:

    DCNR: History of Raccoon Creek State Park

    PA Bucket List: Exploring Frankfort Mineral Springs Falls

    Beaver County History Online

    Underside view of two cap mushrooms looking up toward the treetops and gray skies at Raccoon Creek State Park.

    Check out my trip to an Ohio Location that I think my mom would have loved.


  • The Mirror of Others- Choosing Your Reflection

    The Mirror of Others- Choosing Your Reflection


    Best for:

    Individuals who practice the art of setting healthy boundaries, setting boundaries regarding your reflection, readers seeking a sign to prioritize their peace, those souls navigating the friction between their internal truth and external societal views placed on them, and those advocates looking to understand the psychological weight of the “social mirror.”


    The Vault:

    • The Social Mirror: Understanding that our self-image is often built from the reflections of the way others perceive us.
    • The Right to Exit: Recognizing that “agreeing to disagree” on someone’s identity is often a precursor to a necessary silence.
    • Identity Sovereignty: The power of defining oneself regardless of external “delusion” narratives.

    The Weight of a Gaze:

    In sociology, the “Looking Glass Self” suggests that we perceive ourselves through the eyes of others. But what happens when that mirror is cracked? When the person looking at us insists on seeing a version of us that doesn’t exist? it creates a psychological dissonance that is exhausting and potentially dangerous to maintain.

    We are often told that we cannot “force” others to respect our gender identity or pronouns. This is very true, and I’ve never denied that.

    Though, the other side of this argument is equally powerful: no one is forced to remain in a relationship (intimate, familiar, or platonic). This is especially true of relationships where the simple things being asked are dismissed or treated as a debate, or worse delusional.

    Whether it’s a matter of gender identity or something else, walking away isn’t an overreaction; this was just another act of self-preservation.

    If the image you hold of me is a distortion, I am under no obligation to stand in front of your mirror.


    The Poem

    An original poetic micro-prose by:

    Axton N. O. Mitchell

    “The Looking Glass Self”

    The way we see someone

    can shape the way they see themselves.

    When the image we hold

    doesn’t reflect who they truly are

    or want to be,

    it’s understandable

    if they choose to walk away.

    It is but this simple.


    Poet’s Note:

    This piece was born from the exhaustion of being told that my existence is a delusional belief, that others refuse to be forced to play-along-with. There is a common argument used against the trans and gender nonconforming individuals.

    I dare you to try existing in a world that treats your core self as a debate topic. We still see this everywhere, though.

    When we witness a neurodivergent person explaining their needs to be told that they are just “making excuses.” A woman in a high-level position who is treated like a secretary or as if she slept her way there based on a male coworker’s bias. Think of adults with differences in abilities that are stripped of their agency by people who refuse to see their competence.

    If you view my identity, or anyone’s lived experience as a debate or a delusion, then there is no foundation for a relationship.

    I’m not interested in debating with anyone about whether or not I exist, if my needs are real, or anything else involving my truth.

    If you don’t respect who I am as a person, I don’t have to speak to you.

    Period.

    This isn’t an ultimatum; it’s a consequence of your own nearsightedness and self-righteousness.

    The reality is more straightforward; Respect is the baseline for connection. If you view someone’s experiences as a delusion, your connection is already severed.

    I don’t care to change your mind, and I certainly won’t spend my time trying to convince you of my right to be.

    We don’t owe anyone our presence while they actively participate in our erasure.

    The “Looking Glass Self” only has power if we choose to keep looking into the mirrors people hold up for us. If that mirror is warped, you have the right to shatter it.

    True respect isn’t a favor someone does for you; it’s the bottom tier thing someone needs to do if they wish to remain in your world.

    If they can’t do the bare minimum, you shouldn’t settle anyway.


    TL;DR:

    • Perception is Power: Others’ views can influence us, but they don’t have to define us.
    • Universal Erasure: Identity denial happens to many from the neurodivergent to the disabled. The response is the same: cutting the tie.
    • Boundaries are Absolute: You do not owe a soul access to your presence while they actively participate in your erasure.
    • The Right to Silence: If respect isn’t present, communication is optional. Choose silence over self-betrayal.

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