List 30 things that make you happy.
I don’t wake up every day smiling. Life’s not that kind. But even on my worst day. The one where the burn-out threatens to walk away. The overstimulated days, when even thoughts are too much. The “why the hell am I even doing this” days. I know joy still lives in me. It’s not always some big outrageous show. Often it is quiet and small. Unhinged. Chaotic. Soft. Real.
The following is my attempt at giving at least some of them names(no particular order).
1. My partner Kelso, and the life we built together It isn’t perfect, and we never wanted perfect anyway. What we’ve got is real. It’s soft, it’s loud, it’s safe, it’s feral, it’s growing. They see me in ways that no one else does, and they stay. That alone makes this entire messy ride feel like something worth holding onto. I’d build this weird-ass little world again with them every time.
2. My mom and everything she stood for, taught me, and lived by. She wasn’t the kind of person you forget. She loved out loud, stood her ground, held her people up and never backed down from what she stood on. What she believed, she lived, and what she lived, she passed to me whether she meant to or not. Some days I hear her in the way I talk to people. Other days I see her in the mirror. She’s gone, but her backbone is stitched into mine.
3. My sisters, even if they will grey me early. They’re twins and always have been chaos. A just shy of a decade younger and somehow one acts older half the time. They have always known every button to push, and they push them with glee. But underneath all that noise, there’s a kind of loyalty and bond that’s built into the marrow. They were annoying and loud and infuriating but so very irreplaceable.
4. My friends, past and present I’m not one of those “cut off forever” people. Even if we fell out, even if we haven’t talked in years, even if the love had to turn silent. It was and is still love. Some folks just can’t sit at my table anymore or ever again. Doesn’t mean I don’t wish them well from way over here.
5. My dog Luna and the kitty men. There’s no part of my life untouched by my animals. Luna’s nose on my hand when I’m crying. The cats headbutting me for attention Luna pulling me through dirt paths lined with tree after I’ve worked three doubles. They remind me to eat. To stop. To breathe. To laugh. That kind of love is pure.
6. When different minorities come together despite our differences. Watching Black, brown, Indigenous, disabled, neurodivergent, queer, trans folks stand beside each other is freeing, instead of fighting for scraps. This is by far one of the most healing things I’ve witnessed. There’s something sacred about that kind of alliance. It doesn’t erase pain, but it makes space for all of us.
7. Pop punk, especially Fall Out Boy, Panic! at the Disco, and all those dope-ass covers from Punk Goes pop/Country/rock/etc. That shit raised me. I was a hoodie-and-headphones kid, screaming lyrics into the void like they were gospel. I still blast it driving through Ohio backroads,and it feels as if the ghosts of my teenage self is riding shotgun. The first album I remember asking for was definitely “From Under the Cork Tree.”
8. Poetry, literature, journaling… language in all its forms. I don’t always know how to say things out loud, but I always find a way to write it. Words don’t always make sense when I speak them. When I write they land. They hold space. Take your breath and then they finally breathe.
9. Hiking, rockhounding, exploring new places or old, it doesn’t matter. Sometimes I just need to wander. Whether it’s a trail I’ve walked a dozen times or a new spot I found on a whim, there’s peace in the motion. In the quiet. In the discovery. Especially when I’m out rockhounding in Ohio and stumble across a fossil or pocket of quartz.
10. When I am turning rock finds into something beautiful There’s something powerful in taking something raw and jagged from the ground and shaping it into a polished, glimmering little thing. Tumbling, slicing, sanding it’s not just a hobby. It’s transformation. I’ve pulled creekside stones from Wheeling, West Virginia and turned them into altar pieces.
11. Spirituality, witchcraft, and nature None of its performative. It’s grounding. It’s ritual. It’s the hum I hear when I’m still enough to listen. My practice isn’t about aesthetics, it’s about stitching the world back together in a way that makes sense to me.
12. My residents, past present and future. They’ve seen more than I ever will. Even when they forget my name. Even when they’re mean. Even when I’m stretched too thin and they’re dying in front of me. They’re still people worth knowing. And I’m honored every damn time I get to know them.
13. Some of the nurses and aides I’ve worked with over the years. Not all, not most, but my few homies. The ones who get it? They become your lifeline. They joke with you, cry with you, hold the line with you. They’re the ones keeping it all afloat when the higher-ups are just checking boxes. And if you’re lucky enough you’re able to extend a lot of that beyond work.
14.. Geek Bars… the banana taffy is the one. Yes, it’s nicotine. Yes, it’s artificial. No, I don’t care. Banana taffy is joy in vapor form.
15. Weeds, flowers, carts, edibles, all of it Indica or hybrid, please and thank you. My brain’s already an overclocked mess; I’m not trying to blast off with a sativa. I just want to calm down and breathe again.
16. The mountains and their views, the air, the cold streams in North Carolina. Even when I am driving through the southeastern Ohio hills or heading down past Yellow Springs, the landscape changes your chest. The air is sharper. Cleaner. The water’s so cold it feels holy. I feel more me up there. Well honestly anywhere in nature.
17. Video games, especially Far Cry and Fortnite. I want story, chaos, bright colors, explosions, and weird-ass side missions. Far Cry’s my jam, and Fortnite’s my candy. And I love to use emotes to be extra sassy!
18. Long drives with good music. Whether I’m chasing sunsets through Ohio or driving toward nowhere just to move, those drives are my church. Sometimes it’s just me and Luna. Other times, it’s the right people. The destination isn’t always the point. The feeling is.
19. Yellow. Just the color yellow. It’s been my favorite forever. It feels like a mood lifeline. As if I can’t quite sink if I can still see yellow.
20.. Kayaking, Whether I’m out on the lakes or on the river trails back home in Wheeling, WV, there’s something about floating. Something about being held by the water, that quiets me. That realigns me.
21.. My partner’s family. They didn’t just tolerate me, they welcomed me. My sisters-in-law, my niece, my nephew… they feel like people I was supposed to know all along.
22. Reptiles, amphibians, snakes I’ll die on the hill that snakes have personalities. The texture of a lizard’s skin, the slow blink of a gecko, the vibe of a chill ball python all beautiful. And something’s that bring me joy. That’s connection.
23. Studying religion and history. Not to argue or prove anything. Just to know. Just to understand what’s shaped the world, and why.
24.. My Honda Civic. It was my mom’s favorite car make, but to me? That thing is freedom. Reliable, efficient, mine. Honda gang for life.
25.. Early morning hours before the world wakes. That weird liminal time between 4 a.m. and sunrise, when everything is quiet and painted in slow pinks and oranges? That’s my peace. That’s when the noise quiets.
26. Hoodie and shorts weather Hot legs, cold arms. Chill breeze, sunny sky. Perfection. Classic ADHD comfort combo.
27. A good bookbag Give me one with secret pockets and big compartments and the ability to carry rocks and snacks and my journal. I’ll never stop hunting for the perfect one.
28. Etnies, PacSun, Hot Topic, Spencer’s all the early 2000s alt mall-core. Yea I am still a poser, still proud. That was my era. And every time I wear some chunky skater shoes or a black hoodie with chains? I’m home.
29. Yellow Springs, Ohio The energy in that town is unmatched. It’s weird, welcoming, radical, artistic, it feels like a pocket of the world where I can just be.
30. Scary books and horror movies, especially splatterpunk and realistic gore Give me the anatomy right. Give me blood that makes sense. I don’t want shiny CGI. I want words that paint images so vivid they feel like memory. Horror is how I process.
Joy doesn’t have to be big. It doesn’t have to be pretty. It doesn’t even have to make sense to anyone but me.It is simply holding a smooth piece of quartz I found in an Ohio stream. And it’s yelling emo lyrics into the wind on a backroad. Sometimes it’s Luna licking my face when I can’t get out of bed.
All of that is real. All of that is joy. And all of that is enough.








